Some ‘Relationship’ advises for men…

Although I don’t consider myself an expert in giving relationship advice, I’ve met some remarkable women and been through some intriguing relationships. Based on my observations, I decided to create a compilation and pass on the learning to my fellow men. Since women are more in touch with their emotional side, I believe that they can take care of themselves and besides, every woman has 1 or more female companions who play the role of emotional advisor and body guard. Men however have been deprived of these emotional/ relationship advises and there by end up learning from their faults, as I did.

Do’s:

- The first ground rule is that you need to accept that every woman is unique; each one has their own set of likes & dislikes which cannot be generalized, unlike in men.

- Be confident. Like yourself, your life and things around you. Don’t pretend to be what you’re not. Women have this tingling 6^th sense that’s unfortunately good in finding this out.

- Let them do the talking. Just ask the right questions and let them open up at their own pace.

- Make silly jokes once in a while. Making them laugh & have fun is the 1^st step towards a relationship.

- When you say you're going to call, call. Even just to say that you don’t have time for a long conversation.

- Be a polite and compassionate gentleman. For ex, always open the door for the lady when you walk in somewhere.

- When they come asking for advise, tell them what they need to hear; Not what is right. Although they might listen to a lot of opinions, they would, more often than not, end up doing the right thing.

- During aggravations, sarcastic comments or fights- stay calm. Every wrong word is like a sharp knife and will carve out a chunk of a loving relationship that can never grow back.

- Always remember all your anniversaries. Make sure that you do something special, small or big, to make them understand that they’re there on your mind constantly.

- If you're mad or upset, say something. Don’t pretend saying ‘Nothing, I'm fine’.

- Emotional, Intellectual and sexual compatibility all are equally important to a relationship, but ensure that all 3 have a healthy balance.

- Pay attention to your partner’s intake of medicine, food, and fluids and how these variations affect their energy levels and moods.

- If you decide to break up seriously- stick on to your decision. No point in postponing a break up and any reconciliation will drag out more pain.

Don’ts:

- Never keep a score card or a fault sheet. Forgiving, costs you nothing and rest assured the favor is always returned as long as your partner is reasonable.

- Don’t talk about previous relationship if you are jealous or possessive type. Better to keep them buried.

- Don’t take her for granted and don’t let yourself be taken for, either.

- Never change yourself for your woman. True love should be based on loving each other just the way that they are without any customizations. Don’t force her to change as well.

- Never stare or flirt with any other woman in front of them, especially if your partner is possessive.

- Never let suspicion build up. Figure it out, talk it out and resolve it immediately.

- Don’t shout or be shouted at as well, during a fight. Both can’t be pissed at the same time, if the relationship is to work. Once everything gets out of the system, go out for a coffee or dinner and discuss things.

- Never compare the woman in your life with anyone else; even if it were to be your sister, mother or aunt.

Having given these words of wisdom, since I’m always approachable, do come up with more relationship pointers for the benefit of all those love birds out there. If you girls think that something can be added to help the guys to be more understanding, feel free to comment. And last but not the least, like the old ones say ‘Don't go to bed angry and one who cooks does not do the dishes’.